If pregnancy has not happened as you hoped, it is understandable to want answers. You do not need to identify the reason yourself before arranging a medical conversation.
Fertility difficulties may involve either partner, both partners or an unexplained cause. Assessment is a shared medical question, rather than a reason to place blame on one person. Healthdirect — Infertility.
When should you seek advice?
Healthdirect recommends talking to a doctor after 12 months of trying if you are under 35, or after six months if you are over 35. Seek advice sooner if you have a known or suspected fertility concern; ask your GP about timing for your own circumstances. Healthdirect — Infertility.
Seven questions to take along
- What should we discuss first? Explain how long you have been trying and what concerns you most.
- What information should each partner bring? Ask whether separate medical histories or appointments would be useful.
- Are cycle changes relevant? Bring any records you already have, without feeling you need perfect tracking data.
- Could an existing condition matter? Mention diagnoses and previous investigations.
- Should any medicines or supplements be reviewed? Bring the actual names and labels.
- What would a proposed test tell us? Ask how the result would guide the next step.
- What support is available while we wait? Ask about emotional support and when to return.
These are conversation prompts, not a test of whether you have prepared well enough.
Make room for support
Fertility difficulties can be emotionally demanding. Your GP can discuss counselling or other support, including when partners are coping differently. Healthdirect — Infertility.
Melbourne Wellness does not currently offer a fertility programme. Diagnosis, investigations and fertility treatment should be discussed with your GP or fertility specialist. Melbourne Wellness — Services. Healthdirect — Infertility.
If you have already been told you have PCOS, our PCOS questions article offers another way to organise your appointment notes.
Sources
Read 15 October 2026. Clinical sources support the adjacent general information; clinic links verify the advertised appointment menu only.
- Healthdirect — Infertility — Australian public-health guidance; accessed 2026-10-15.
- Melbourne Wellness — Services — current appointment menu; availability only, not efficacy evidence; accessed 2026-10-15.
